Roz Quartz

Welcome to the Twilight Zone! The year is 2016. While the world has advanced, lifestyle has taken a backwards turn in dating. A message to the ladies (my sisters in particular) run like Forrest if you are told this nonsense.

Drops 🎤

-Picture and post courtesy of Keep Elevating Yourself with Bitchy Only –

I have a dear friend who is still recovering from her recent break-up. It happened out of the blue for her. Constantly going over the mishap being the Inspector Gadget personality type. At times I want to tell her to cheer up but honestly, I can understand what she’s going through.

I see the different emotions she is going through. One day she’s hopeful, other times she’s depressed. At times she wants to move on. Other times she wants to contact her ex. It’s common to feel that way. For her it was unexpected, he just stopped calling her.

While you can’t avoid jerks 100% (even if you’re psychic lol), there are some signs that can help you in the long run from potential disaster.

1. Do your homework– While dating asks a lot of questions. Why? Because clarity will come to you about your situation. There are no stupid questions, listen I made a mistake once of believing a guy I was dating was over his ex. While he told me he was over her and ready for a fresh start, he wasn’t. I didn’t ask the important questions like how long were they separated. Or a really good question that would have reveal everything… If she wanted you back would you go back? Darn it! Because I didn’t get clarity, I played myself. Womp, womp… Yes I did… I’m not ashamed to admit that. But hopefully, my experience will help someone else who may be dealing with something similar in their life.
2. Pay attention to the signs– If he/she starts one way with you then all of sudden do something different. Usually, that means that he/she is no longer interested in you and have either moved on with someone else or change their mind altogether. If this happens don’t bother with getting closure. They won’t tell you the truth anyway and you’re wasting time with finality.
3. KIM-Keep It Moving- It’s ok if you get knocked down and your feelings are hurt. Eventually, you will recover. With that being said you have to rebound and go forward. Don’t allow the situation to keep you defeated. Make sure you do not allow it to taint your potential and future opportunities as well. Trust in time things will work out to your advantage. Think of it like this, you can’t lose and winning will be in your cards soon enough. Prepare to celebrate the win, cause one who encountered many defeats will soon become a winner by expertise.

You didn’t appreciate my light. It may have been a little too bright. So I disconnected and unplugged.

By doing so I saved my wattage, cause my bulb can’t be replace.

-Roz Roberts  written 08/16

Continue to be in your own special place. There are many beings out there that will not be appreciated and adorned in the way that life had intended it to be. While disappointing don’t commit to an era of defeat. Stay true to your form. Don’t second guess yourself. Many may tell you what you did wrong or what you could have done correctly. However you know yourself, honor it! Appreciate your wattage but know that some may not be able to handle it. Continue to shine your light brightly til some other special being gets you and only you will understand why all this occurred in the first place. 

No matter how it looks success is inevitable, claim it! 

UPDATE: Well Blab unexpectedly shut down. So you can catch me on YouNow under the same name and twitter handle.

Hi, I wanted to make an announcement that I will be on Blab hosting discussions on various topics including dating and so forth. Catch me at my twitter handle heyroz or Roz Roberts. See you soon!

Often we make the sacrifice in our lives to please others but we miss out on the opportunity to please ourselves. There has to be balance to do both otherwise you will end up in a depress state of mind. Until we get the lesson in life we’ll continue to bring situations, obstacles and people into our lives that will either have us repeating the mistake or fixing it.

That’s why when you’re in a relationship it’s very important to be your true self. Otherwise it won’t work. No matter how much you tried to finagle it.

We need to agree (Photo credit: Ken Whytock)

When it’s your time are you ready? I had a wonderful opportunity to work in a creative industry with an opportunity to grown within a mainstream company. At the time I envision how my life would be and where it would go if partake in this career field.

While waiting for the phone call. I decided to focus my interest elsewhere to take up my time. Months passed and I finally got the call. But guess what, I didn’t follow through like I was supposed to. Why?  Because I was too busy dealing with the fear of my ego. Yes my ego was telling me that I wasn’t “experienced” enough to embark in this field. That competition would become rampant and my life would be full of constant awkward moments of trying to blend and adept in a crowd that I wasn’t familiar with.

So the opportunity  fell through. As I realized it was what I really wanted, I reached out and tried to gain my reëntry in the door. It didn’t happen. After multiple emails and calls the interest from the other party wasn’t there anymore. They picked someone else to feel the void. Now the same thing that was occupying my time turn out to be a pain in the arse, while I’m constantly having some king of regret on missing out on my opportunity. Plus I’m stuck in a dead-end job with no room for growth or advancement. Plus I surrounded by many chiefs and very few indians. I have too many people telling me what to do etc… You get my drift. Let me stop right here and get back to the point. Are you ready?

When it comes to love. Many times we want an opportunity to date or find a mate who will supply us with our needs and wants. It’s only natural to have that wish. However we mess up when the opportunity arrives and we intentionally let it pass us by. Either through fear, doubt or unnecessary expectations that delays our time in getting to the outcome of a successful relationship.

I seen it many times through my friends and peers. They want a guy to ask them out. The guy does and they find fault in the first date or the moment without allowing flexibility in their perceptions. Now I’m not talking about settling, no way! I’m talking about how we pray and wish upon a star for the blessing and then think we don’t deserve it when it arrives.

THE SOLUTION: Why not step out on faith and give opportunity a try? What I should have done was accept the offer and deal with the obstacles from there. Who knows, I may not have any and it could have been all in my head. But to give up without trying is a perfect recipe for failure. Failure in all things including love.

If you met a wonderful person and not sure if you should take a chance. Trust your hunch. If you prayed on it, more likely it’s for you. Life doesn’t always give us warnings. But it can give you a glimpse of the blessings to come. When it happens will you be ready to take it or will you let it pass by?

My suggestion carry on and deal with it fearlessly.