I’m Back!

3 Aug

UPDATE: Well Blab unexpectedly shut down. So you can catch me on YouNow under the same name and twitter handle.

Hi, I wanted to make an announcement that I will be on Blab hosting discussions on various topics including dating and so forth. Catch me at my twitter handle heyroz or Roz Roberts. See you soon!

 

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Love ❤️ is more than…

25 Aug

So I had taken a break from posting. I felt like I didn’t have much to say for I had said a lot. Well at least I thought however I came to the conclusion that I need to say more.

So instead of just posting about relationship stuff, I’m going to post more about love ❤️. Yes the things we do for love. The reaction of love. The meaning of love. The feeling of love.

Love is life. Love is what makes you transform and grow in life. On the other hand, lack of love can make a person go crazy, a lack of love can make a person react in negative ways. A lack of love can make you wanna holler and throw up your hands, as brother Marvin said rip. Yes he even gave up and got out cause he never got that love from the man he tried to please. I’m not talking about God but his father. Hate is real. Hate took him out. The caused reaction by his actions.

Love is real. The real test is how you manage that in your life. Many don’t have it or know how to utilize it in their lives.

Look at our current leader. He’s a larger reflection of how it looks when you don’t have love in your life. He was raised in an environment where he probably wasn’t told that he was special and loved. So other things took the place of that like ego, money, social status and envy.

It’s important for parents to tell their children how much they love them. It’s important for these children to grow up and learn how to love others unconditionally. It’s important to know how to love yourself when you’re not being honored by others for the highest good.

For now on I will post more love content. Every song has a reference to love, everybody is seeking love in some way. Love is universal.

Today I chose to love ❤️ even when I feel at times it’s a lost cause. Always believe in yourself. Always believe in love. Hang in there.

Dating 2016

17 Oct

Welcome to the Twilight Zone! The year is 2016. While the world has advanced, lifestyle has taken a backwards turn in dating. A message to the ladies (my sisters in particular) run like Forrest if you are told this nonsense.

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-Picture and post courtesy of Keep Elevating Yourself with Bitchy Only –

The Switch-Up! Beware…

10 Oct

The CellI have a dear friend who is still recovering from her recent break-up. It happened out of the blue for her. Constantly going over the mishap being the Inspector Gadget personality type. At times I want to tell her to cheer up but honestly, I can understand what she’s going through.

I see the different emotions she is going through. One day she’s hopeful, other times she’s depressed. At times she wants to move on. Other times she wants to contact her ex. It’s common to feel that way. For her it was unexpected, he just stopped calling her.

While you can’t avoid jerks 100% (even if you’re psychic lol), there are some signs that can help you in the long run from potential disaster.

  1. Do your homework– While dating asks a lot of questions. Why? Because clarity will come to you about your situation. There are no stupid questions, listen I made a mistake once of believing a guy I was dating was over his ex. While he told me he was over her and ready for a fresh start, he wasn’t. I didn’t ask the important questions like how long were they separated. Or a really good question that would have reveal everything… If she wanted you back would you go back? Darn it! Because I didn’t get clarity, I played myself. Womp, womp… Yes I did… I’m not ashamed to admit that. But hopefully, my experience will help someone else who may be dealing with something similar in their life.
  2. Pay attention to the signs– If he/she starts one way with you then all of sudden do something different. Usually, that means that he/she is no longer interested in you and have either moved on with someone else or change their mind altogether. If this happens don’t bother with getting closure. They won’t tell you the truth anyway and you’re wasting time with finality.
  3. KIM-Keep It Moving- It’s ok if you get knocked down and your feelings are hurt. Eventually, you will recover. With that being said you have to rebound and go forward. Don’t allow the situation to keep you defeated. Make sure you do not allow it to taint your potential and future opportunities as well. Trust in time things will work out to your advantage. Think of it like this, you can’t lose and winning will be in your cards soon enough. Prepare to celebrate the win, cause one who encountered many defeats will soon become a winner by expertise.

Interesting Facts!

8 Sep

I was going to write and article in a few regarding this. I guess its confirmation that I speak out about it rather than not. Thanks to my SiStar Zanetta Tribble El for your knowledge. 

One thing that is certain in life is the end of one cycle and the beginning of another. The universe will give you many signs and symbols that cue you it’s time to move on to the next stage. When you don’t listen or take heed and stay in relationships or situations that no longer serve you for your greater good, the universe has a way of knocking you on your ass so you have no choice but to look at it for what it truly is and not what you want or hope it will be. And hopefully you listen then and can walk away with the lesson…


More to come… Stay tuned…

The Light… 

7 Sep

You didn’t appreciate my light. It may have been a little too bright. So I disconnected and unplugged.

By doing so I saved my wattage, cause my bulb can’t be replace.

-Roz Roberts  written 08/16

Continue to be in your own special place. There are many beings out there that will not be appreciated and adorned in the way that life had intended it to be. While disappointing don’t commit to an era of defeat. Stay true to your form. Don’t second guess yourself. Many may tell you what you did wrong or what you could have done correctly. However you know yourself, honor it! Appreciate your wattage but know that some may not be able to handle it. Continue to shine your light brightly til some other special being gets you and only you will understand why all this occurred in the first place. 

No matter how it looks success is inevitable, claim it! 


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The Comeback

18 Aug

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Why many artists don’t do a comeback. 

In writing this title I wanted to be very clear in my direct meaning of what I am going to explain. Many fans clamor in anticipation to hear their favorite artists redo or review their favorite songs, often times they’re not prepared for what goes on behind closed doors. It takes a lot of preparation and stamina to go back on stage. Combined the pressures of reality along with the artist’s own insecurities, most of them decline to participate in a comeback. While a few artists do well, some of them may receive more accolades than before. Many feel rusty in whatever category and the negativity may often manifest into shock and talk amongst fans.

This can also be the same aspect when it comes to dating. After being on hiatus how can one successfully come back in a winning way? It takes work of a productive strategy that can allow room for growth and development.

Take Jane for example. Jane was in an abusive relationship that ended over four years ago. During the break, she worked on herself by healing and decided it was time to jump back in the dating pool. Jane approached the dating aspect in a positive way and begin meeting people. She met one guy that over time took a serious liking to. This guy also like Jane however, he was not thoroughly clear on what he wanted in a relationship which caused some confusion on her part.  He strung her along and stop returning her calls. No more dates. Jane feeling perplexed about the whole thing thought that maybe she didn’t have all the right traits for dating and decided to retreat back into herself.  She did not seek or participate in any sociable activities that involved the opposite sex,  it felt awkward for her to do so.

Jane was like the artist who struggled for a failed comeback attempt. They both became complacent with the past belief that nothing gets better even if you try hard enough to make it possible.

What made them different from the successful artist that did do well was having the resilience and ability to adaptation. You can’t have one component without the other. Jane met a string of guys which gave validation to her fears that dating is a waste of time. But she let that defined her story and settle out of the game. Jane could have been better prepared for her heart and time by being upfront and asking them what they wanted in the first place. Had they said something that didn’t resonate with her then it was in Jane’s power to create something different. By saying thanks but no thanks to them, the strategy of success would have been what she wanted to see. Or like the artist that decided to get help by utilizing a coordinator and vocal coach. Their grand debut would have been more of a celebrated win.

When we make preparations for planning, make sure the goals matches the actions. Sometimes you can be on the path following the plan accordingly and may still be misdirected or having to forego what was initiated. That’s ok, don’t run instead retreat briefly and make a new plan.

Chances are the more you work through the problem, the solution appears and eventually it will all work out for your greater good. Don’t hide away steal the spotlight and embrace the change!

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I Ain’t Got No Type…

6 Aug

All I do is swipe, swipe, swipe… SwipeReally? Let’s talk. Social media has taken over many aspects of our lives. 90% of our time involve some form of social media, whether we are checking the latest news or who’s who amongst the whom… Yes, I said it in that manner. Social media have also infiltrate the delicate world of dating. 

Like reality shows, dating has become the venue of competition. If you’re new to the dating scene you might feel like a bench warmer during the off-season game. However even the contenders have some form of social anxiety and difficulties when utilizing this platform of dating and developing a relationship.

Before you try out for the Olympics, there are some tips to consider as you embark on this journey. Run!!!!! Haha at times running is your best option. So many ads, not enough potential. This may have you running to your therapist on a weekly basis.

Now this post is for the hopefuls. This post is not for those who think they have it together or knowledge of why you don’t need to be dating, etc, etc. These rule makers are killjoy in the making.

Are you still here? Great you didn’t run far, so I will tell you my perspective on how to maintain sanity and balance while dating in the millennium.

  1. Know what you want, then prepare for revision… You should always know what your wants and desires are. Once you find potential dating profiles realize that your list will be revised for many are exaggerated and pump up to gain the advantage and attention of the potential interest. Let’s vision Catfish on Crack! They may have fluff up something about themselves which is usually their employment, weight, height, location, age, and interests. If you can settle with the acceptance that potential is really 5’3 versus 5’8, then hold on and see how it progresses going forward. If something else comes up like another lie or exaggeration then it is sign of a red flag and you should run for it.
  2. Make sure you get clarity… See one potential profile may tell you that they are looking to have a serious relationship. But once they meet you, the interest may only be fleeting for the moment. Only wanting a sexual relationship. Know what you want. Do not get discourage if that potential is no longer harboring the promising trait they once had. This a sign to disconnect and move on. You will be glad that you did and not waste anymore of your valuable time.
  3. Once clarification is clear, keep a positive mindset about the process… It takes time to form a relationship that is of worth and value. If you encounter any disappointments, whereby it seem promising but went bust. Do not allow that to discourage you. Anything of quality takes time and that non potential did you a favor by existing out of your life. You want success and that takes work. Once you master dating in a Social Media Era, know in time you will achieve your goal.

Be True!

30 May

Often we make the sacrifice in our lives to please others but we miss out on the opportunity to please ourselves. There has to be balance to do both otherwise you will end up in a depress state of mind. Until we get the lesson in life we’ll continue to bring situations, obstacles and people into our lives that will either have us repeating the mistake or fixing it.

That’s why when you’re in a relationship it’s very important to be your true self. Otherwise it won’t work. No matter how much you tried to finagle it.

We need to agree

We need to agree (Photo credit: Ken Whytock)

Recognize Your Moment

12 Apr

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When it’s your time are you ready? I had a wonderful opportunity to work in a creative industry with an opportunity to grown within a mainstream company. At the time I envision how my life would be and where it would go if partake in this career field.

While waiting for the phone call. I decided to focus my interest elsewhere to take up my time. Months passed and I finally got the call. But guess what, I didn’t follow through like I was supposed to. Why?  Because I was too busy dealing with the fear of my ego. Yes my ego was telling me that I wasn’t “experienced” enough to embark in this field. That competition would become rampant and my life would be full of constant awkward moments of trying to blend and adept in a crowd that I wasn’t familiar with.

So the opportunity  fell through. As I realized it was what I really wanted, I reached out and tried to gain my reëntry in the door. It didn’t happen. After multiple emails and calls the interest from the other party wasn’t there anymore. They picked someone else to feel the void. Now the same thing that was occupying my time turn out to be a pain in the arse, while I’m constantly having some king of regret on missing out on my opportunity. Plus I’m stuck in a dead-end job with no room for growth or advancement. Plus I surrounded by many chiefs and very few indians. I have too many people telling me what to do etc… You get my drift. Let me stop right here and get back to the point. Are you ready?

When it comes to love. Many times we want an opportunity to date or find a mate who will supply us with our needs and wants. It’s only natural to have that wish. However we mess up when the opportunity arrives and we intentionally let it pass us by. Either through fear, doubt or unnecessary expectations that delays our time in getting to the outcome of a successful relationship.

I seen it many times through my friends and peers. They want a guy to ask them out. The guy does and they find fault in the first date or the moment without allowing flexibility in their perceptions. Now I’m not talking about settling, no way! I’m talking about how we pray and wish upon a star for the blessing and then think we don’t deserve it when it arrives.

THE SOLUTION: Why not step out on faith and give opportunity a try? What I should have done was accept the offer and deal with the obstacles from there. Who knows, I may not have any and it could have been all in my head. But to give up without trying is a perfect recipe for failure. Failure in all things including love.

If you met a wonderful person and not sure if you should take a chance. Trust your hunch. If you prayed on it, more likely it’s for you. Life doesn’t always give us warnings. But it can give you a glimpse of the blessings to come. When it happens will you be ready to take it or will you let it pass by?

My suggestion carry on and deal with it fearlessly.